Cutting The Toxic People Away

TOXIC

 Poisonous, Venomous, Noxious, Dangerous, Destructive

Snip, Snip & Cut, Cut! Yes it is time to the cut out the toxic in our lives. The million dollar question many ask, "How do you know if it is toxic or not?" Well, that is a no brainer!! If it makes you feel bad or is painful, then it is toxic and you must remove it. Let me help you understand why it is necessary to remove the toxic people from your life. Many years ago I worked at a place in Charleston, SC, The Charleston County Substance Abuse Commission. I was a counselor in the Detox unit, seeing patients in from 18 to over 60  years of age. They seem to have the mentaility of someone in their much earlier years. This is very simple to understand. When you begin involving yourself with something/someone toxic, you stop growing. So for an addict that begins using at the age of 25, and they are now 50, they have the maturity level of a 25 year old.

So let me point out why you must remove the people or habits out of your life that are toxic to you, so YOU can continue to grow within yourself and reach that "happy place".

What does cutting out the toxic actually mean? It simply means that if there is someone, whether it be family, friend, work environment/people or destructive habitual behaviors, you MUST release them or it.

Is it painful to let those that have been in your life so long go? Of course it is. Just like it is painful for an alcoholic or drug addict to give up the poison they have been using for so long. Actually in most cases, they go through a horrible physical pain during their time of detoxing.

Just as many of us that have to let certain people in our lives go, it is emotionally painful in the beginning. But once you begin to feel the positive energy flow enter your mind, body & spirit after the release, the pain evaporates.

I have a client that has dealt with a friend that sucks the positive right out of her. After a few sessions, she began to understand that it is time to cut the ties. Now this is not always as simple as it sounds. Sometimes you have to use grace and compassion as you are cutting the toxic cord. Once my client started slowly cutting the cord, she began feelling better as she notice the "happy" surrounding her. On her third session with me, I even noticed a difference in how she looked and carried herself. When I mentioned how good she looked, she explained that she was beginning to spend less time with her friend.

When I had removed myself from a toxic relationship six years ago, people started to tell me how much better I looked, and seemed to be much happier. One friend even described me to look "at peace". Once we cut the toxic, we grow on many spiritual & emotional levels. In this new found growth, we are able to recognize the toxic quicker, allowing us to avoid it all together.

So now is the time to ask yourself how important it is for YOU to be in a happy & peaceful place with your mind, body & spirit. If you believe that it is very important, then you must ask yourself whom and, or, what needs to be cut.